OMG I Got 112 Likes On My Photo

Facebook and social media has become a daily ritual for many Americans. What does it say about us though? Does it show that we really are that insecure about our lives that we have to tell everyone and anyone on social media every little detail of our lives just to get a "like" or "favorite". Have you noticed people will post about all the nice "random acts of kindness" they do on social media, but why are they doing these things? Are they doing it to be able to post about how amazing and nice they are? Or are they doing it because they felt in their heart that it was important to share their wealth. If it was something they did out of the kindness of their heart they wouldn't feel the need to ask for praise. What about when people spend tons of money on these extravagant vacations to just sit behind their phones and take pictures the entire time not soaking up the culture or relaxing and enjoying the view. People need to ask themselves who cares if people like your pictures, or status'? Are you enjoying your time or just trying to look better. People aren't friends with you because "OH my gosh Jill did you see Sarah's photos of her vacation?". No, nobody says these things honestly because everyone else is consumed with making their life seem so amazing and cool to talk about your facebook page.
The world doesn't revolve around you or your social media. Take your head out of your phone/social media and do amazing things for other people without begging for praise on Facebook. Go on your vacations and enjoy your time off with your family or friends without trying to make people jealous of your life. Be who you want to be and do what you want to do without caring what you will be able to brag about on social media.

Don't be a "Psycho Ex-Girlfriend"

Lately I've been noticing how crazy some break ups are since usually the drama is all over social media. Dealing with a break up can definitely be a challenge, especially if you saw yourself spending the rest of your life with that person, but some reactions are more harmful than helpful. When break ups occur it is usually because someone is unhappy or needs a break. So when you stalk their social media, post things about them, or call/text them 24/7 you are showing them that you cannot be your own person and only smothering them and making them want out even more. Doing this they are now seeing that you are obsessive and crazy, which nobody (well nobody I know) wants to spend the rest of their life with. I understand that you will want to know what they are doing or how they are handling it, but I guarantee that they will wonder the same about you.

Girls get dressed up and have a fun girls night, by this I do NOT mean have a random hook up or dress like you're trying to hook up with someone, continue being the girl that he fell in love with. Hooking up with random people isn't cute and usually triggers revenge("If she is gonna do that I will hook up with so and so"). Even if you aren't hooking up with anyone looking like you're going to will lead to him making assumptions. Also think about the guys perspective if you look easy guys are just going to use you for what they want. Guys want girls they can show off to their friends not one that has already been with all of their friends. You can look hot without looking easy! Don't let a break up change your morals!

Stay off of social media! Don't worry what he is doing, because it will just drive you crazy or make you constantly think about him. Don't post negative things about him,  because undermining the person you were in a relationship with only decreases the value of your character. Think about it trying to make him sound like a horrible person makes you look dumb for staying with him or even dating him.  Posting about him constantly will not only drive your friends crazy, but make everyone think that you are obsessed and a "Psycho Girlfriend". If he sees that you can't live without him he will think that he can go off and do whatever he wants and walk all over you until he gets bored with it then take you will take him back because you "need" him. You're not a doormat do not let him treat you like one!

Don't threaten/fight his new girl. Yes it's okay to be jealous, its perfectly normal in fact, but threatening/fighting her is only going to make you look crazy and from what I've seen it only drives him closer to that girl. Think about it who would he rather be with? Someone who is attacking/fighting or the person who is getting attacked? Who would you want to comfort the victim or the attacker? You might drive this girl away but I can tell you he won't want to be with you either.

Break ups are hard on both sides, but its important to not let it change you. The key is act like the girl he first fell in love with obviously he fell in love with that person the first time. Remember it's okay to miss him and be sad and it's even okay show it, because you definitely don't want to seem happy he broke up with you, because then he will think you never cared. "Distance makes the heart grow fonder" if you are smothering him their is no distance, and if you aren't acting like the woman you are he won't miss you. If it was meant to be it will work out, but in the case that it doesn't keep your head up you will find someone who appreciates the woman you are especially if you don't seem like an obsessive psycho girlfriend.

Dealing with Emotions

Dealing with emotions is all up to ones preference. People deal with their emotions differently some people like to "vent" and share every negative aspect in their lives and some people, like me, would rather move forward and not dwell on the negativity. Some say avoiding your feelings is bad for your health, but I personally don't see how talking about all the bad things that you're going through or have gone through is good for you mental health. Why are people expected to share every painful detail about a negative experience that happened? Dwelling on the negative only brings out more negative and it begins to consume you're every thought. Dwelling on these experiences personally makes me have anxiety thinking about how horrible a situation like a tornado is and how I could've died, how I lost everything I ever owned, how everyone around me almost died, or how if something little would have been different it could've changed everything only makes me fear another storm constantly verses looking at the positives of the situation like we all got to safety, yes I lost all of my stuff but items are replaceable, yes I lost all my special items that  can't be replaced because they represented memories, but we are all here and I'd rather make new memories with them verses having items to remember them by, or the fact that everything happened the way it did for a reason God was looking out for me therefore I'm alive and blessed. These positives make me realize that negative things happen, but I made it out and now I have to move forward and come out stronger than before. If I just thought about all the things I experienced and lost I would be depressed and anxious 24/7. Even if it wasn't as traumatic as a tornado thinking about and talking about all the bad things in life will make you think your life is horrible, but when you think about all the things that are going great in your life and how blessed you are you see that life isn't all that bad. For some people talking out their feelings or reliving their experience is a way for them to get through it, but saying someone is harming their health by dealing with their emotions a certain way is absurd to me. Everyone is unique and different so it makes sense that everybody deals with their emotions differently, and everyone knows what makes them feel better and should embrace it not feel obligated to talk about it if they don't want to.

Do what makes you happy and feel better.

It's Not Hard to Be Nice.

When I look at society I get very angry with how people treat one another and try to understand the impossible.
Why do people think their image is more important then reaching out to someone who is lonely?
Why are people so close-minded?
Why is it so hard to compliment someone instead of put them down?

It really bothers me that because someone is different society thinks being seen talking to that person will ruin their "image". When in all reality reaching out to someone who is alone and looks like they need a friend should boost your image. Society can't get it through their head that nobody is better than anyone just because of their sexual preference or because of the amount of money their family has. What has to happen for this thought process to change? Do teens need to start committing suicide because they can't handle the bullying? Oh wait, that is happening and still everyone only worries about how to fit in. Even if you're doing something simple like starting a conversation with someone who looks like they are having a bad day, smiling at someone and saying hi, or complimenting them you could save a life. But instead to look "cool" people decide to gang up on someone. Bonding with someone because they can be rude and judgmental and you can do that too won't make you any "real" friends. Is being nice to people really that hard? "think before you speak" "If you don't have anything nice to say don't say anything at all" "Treat others how you would like to be treated" Why can't we all just keep our negative opinions to ourselves? We need to not be so worried about fitting in and consider what kind of person we want to be remembered as. When I die I want people to say yeah she wasn't perfect and she made mistakes, but she was there for anyone who needed a friend and always tried to cheer people up. Because when you die it won't matter if you were friends with the "cool kids" all that will matter is if you made a positive difference in someone's life. So next time you think about talking bad about someone think "Is this what I want to be remembered for?"

College Tuition

I am a college student and I find it ridiculous that each year college tuition is continually increased. Remember when we wanted to be the smartest, richest, and most successful country? Well our country is failing this goal as a college education is out of reach for many Americans. An education is a luxury many parents hope their child take advantage of. For lower income families the dream of their children going off to college is distant unless they can receive scholarships but even just a partial scholarship won’t even scratch into the surface of the outrageous costs. The income bracket of your family does not define the intelligence you have. There is a quote by an unknown author that asks a scary question which is “What if the cure for cancer is trapped inside the mind of someone who cannot afford an education?” This question is scary to think about it because it is so relevant to our tuition expenses. Why are we expected to pay an outrageous amount for an education that could help us save lives? We are paying for an education to earn a title so people listen to what we have to say. Many people don’t even consider going to college for the fact that they will live the rest of their life working to pay off their debt. With the expenses of college those who do plan on attending are working while attending high school to begin paying for these classes, but having to spread themselves so thin they are not achieving as much as they could. In my eyes in order for our country to achieve the goals we want, we need to make a college education more realistic by lowering tuition expenses.

Is Society Too Fast Pace?

Our fast pace society in America has many benefits for our country in the sense we get everything right away, but this fast pace world also has many negative effects that I have been noticing more and more lately. The fact that we as society are so used to getting what we want when we want it we act like selfish children when things don’t go our way. In this fast pace world we all love getting where we are going on time and fast. We all get upset with delays while traveling, which is very common for public transportation, but while I was on an Amtrak train this weekend I saw people’s selfishness at its peak. This is my experience on the train this weekend, the train arrived early, meaning 2 minutes, but for Amtrak this is very impressive since the trains usually are late. So we all got boarded the train and settled into our seats. The first stop after I got on comes along and the girl who was sitting next to me had her bag accidentally hanging out in the isle. As this stop is boarding, a passenger walks toward us and rudely says “Move your shit before I run over it” as he continued walking instead of waiting for her to move her bag. Everyone around us stated how rude he was and how they couldn’t believe someone would be so impatient. Right before our stop in Pontiac our train stopped and one of the train crew members announced that we had hit something and they had to get off and check it out. Everyone on the train groaned and sighed angry at the fact we had to stop. About 45 minutes later the crew member came back on the intercom and confirmed we had indeed hit a person and we would be delayed another 30-45 minutes while we wait for the cops to do the paperwork and everything. As I sit in my seat I hear many passengers around complain loudly and rudely about how they are going to be getting home so late and they have to work in the morning and this is so inconvenient and oh my gosh I have things I have to do. I sit hear and wonder did they not hear what the crew member said? She said we hit a PERSON not an animal a person! Someone’s brother, father, son, or friend just died. That person will not just be late, but they will never arrive where they were trying to go. They will never make it home to see their family. Their families and friends will lose countless nights of sleep from crying over the fact that the person they love is now dead, hit by a train, and thank god they didn’t hear about how many of the passengers on the train were so self-centered that they didn’t care about that person’s life at all. At what point did this fast pace world make so many people so self-centered? The train ended up being 4 hours delayed, which I realize can be a bit irritating, because I’m definitely not saying that I am perfect I mean I am a product of the now generation, but I still have feelings for other people. Don’t let the fast pace world cause you to turn into a fast pace selfish person. So, next time something is an inconvenience to you please just remind yourself worse things are happening around you, and be thankful for what you have.

America Owes Nothing to Illegal Immigrants

In response to “What America Owes Its ‘Illegals’” written by Barbara Ehrenreich in her blog entry I strongly disagree with her statement that we should not fine illegal immigrants for coming into our country illegally. She thinks we should give them a bonus since they are the ones cleaning our offices and doing our lawn work. In times like these where American unemployment rates are extremely high I believe that Americans should not have to fight illegal immigrants for these jobs. I agree the jobs that these aliens are receiving are “dirty work” jobs, but paychecks are paychecks and for someone who has to support their family they would take any job they could and if they lost a job opportunity to someone who is here illegally earning money and sending it to foreign countries I’m confident that they would be quite upset. Being a U.S. citizen is an honor that I am proud to have; my ancestors had to deal with getting into this country legally so they could provide better lives for my family. So if I was losing out to a job that I should be considered for, because someone who is here illegally will work for cheaper wages I would be irate and think that they should be fined for taking the money I could have earned but now I have to collect unemployment which is costing the government and tax payers unnecessary money. A $5000 dollar fine would be to compensate the money the government lost handing out unemployment for an unnecessary reason. She states in her blog entry that she believes that “if someone breaks into her house and steals she would be hell-bent on restitution. But if they break in for the purpose of cleaning it then, in my way of thinking anyway, the debt goes in the other direction.” So she obviously isn’t seeing that these illegal immigrants are breaking into our country and stealing jobs. The ways she is seeing it is that illegal immigrants are doing jobs that wouldn't get done if they were not here. Many Americans work as nannies, construction workers, landscapers, and dish washers which are the jobs she states wouldn’t get done. I’m confident that if America didn't have illegal immigrants all of these jobs would still be filled and completed by the Americans who cannot find work. I am all for immigrants coming to this country to better their lives, but there are steps that are necessary to take to become a legal citizen. After all America is a melting pot of culture.